Question 9b: What are you Most Embarrassed about in your Home?

Even though most homes that I visited in Sweden were of a better standard than English homes, the project participants had similar opinions about their homes: it was the mess they were most embarrassed about. However, I thought that most people had an acceptable level of mess.

People in Sweden had more luxury problems compared to people in England. A small bathroom is better than a damp bathroom ...

(The picture is of my own sink as I don't want to embarrass the people I stayed with by showing pictures of their mess.)

What people in Sweden were most embarrassed about in their homes:

The floor in the hallway and the bedroom

The bathroom is a bit too small

The garden, the stairs that are falling apart

That I don't have any skirting boards in the kitchen

That the laundry place is outside

That we haven't decorated yet

The oblong rice lamp

A tendency to let everything become chaotic, bad organising

The messy kitchen

That it's always so messy

The flower on the wall, that they've painted the wall red and finished half-way through 

That I should wash the windows

The wallpaper by the bed, you can see greasy spots from the guy who lived here before 

That I haven't used my hoover

That the laundry room is in a mess

What people in England were most embarrassed about in their homes:

The window in my room is dirty

Some DVDs, "some people judge me by my films, but some of them belong to my old housemates”

The damp upstairs

The damp in the kitchen and the bathroom

The location, the surroundings aren't that nice

My landlord's girlfriend ("It would upset me if I treated her the way she treats me.")

My family calendar

A vase I piss in when I can't be bothered (The person had a looong way to the toilet)

It could be tidier

The messyness, things we still need to be doing

That my plumbing is only half-finished

The clutter

The massive telly (that belongs to my housemate)

The carpet in the front room

The dripping tap

The only thing I'm embarrassed about in my new home is that one of my two plants is about to die. I don't know if I've given it too much or too little or water of if it just had a sunstroke.

This study is by no means scientific, the answers are based on interviewing 15 people in England and 15 people in Sweden, aged 22-59. Look out for the next question: What's your dream job?

PÅ SVENSKA

Question 8d: How Settled do you feel in your Flat/House?

During Swenglish I lived in many different ways. I stayed with singles, couples and families. I stayed in everything from nice villas to houses that were falling apart. One week I stayed in a caravan, another week I stayed in a community. I slept on floors, on kitchen sofas and spare beds.

Where I felt most at home was often due to whom I stayed with. But sometimes it was just the environment that got me hooked. I felt very happy in the room in the picture above where I stayed during week 3 and I wanted to settled there and give up the rest of the project. Even if there was no central heating. One reason I wanted to stay was that the furniture reminded me of my grandma's house and there was so much space. And I could both smell and hear the sea. My host lived two floors below me, she had a whole house to herself as her landlord had died and the property was up for sale.

At the moment I live on my own for the first time in my life and I already feel settled in my new place. (Even though I sometimes forget in which cupboard my plates live.) Among the project participants who lived on their own there were mixed feelings. Some of them didn't feel very settled even though they owned their own flats and could do what they pleased. Instead they felt lonely or afraid of the dark. Then there were the ones (two Swedes actually) who said "my home is my castle" and found it hard to share with others. In England many people shared with strangers and despite some conflicts they didn't want to live on their own. Partly because of money of course, but they also wanted the company.

A couple of families and some of the couples I stayed with, associated feeling settled with how much they had decorated or done their house up. Two different mums said they would feel more settled if they had a room of their own where they could have space for their own projects. (Just what Virginia Woolf was on about!) One person felt settled because of his record collection and his furniture. For me there are often details or a certain atmosphere that makes me feel at home. A poster on the wall of Axl Rose could be enough.

This study is by no means scientific, the answers are based on interviewing 15 people in England and 15 people in Sweden, aged 22-59. Look out for the next question: What do you feel most proud of in your home?

PÅ SVENSKA